How to deal with temper tantrums and meltdowns

Prior to reading any of the following information, I strongly recommend you start by downloading and reading my free eBook – Child Behavior Guide: What you need to know.

It provides information about factors that can influence and actually increase the likelihood of tantrums, meltdowns and a child behavior problem.

Applying the information provided below can be helpful, but if you are dealing with a situation that falls into one of the categories outlined in my book, it may take a longer time before you start to notice any improvements. It’s fast, it’s free, please take the time to read it first.

1. When told "No" and unable to have an item or do an activity.
2. When changing activities or leaving a fun place.
3. When asked to do something they don't want to do.
4. In order to get attention.

Usually, it should be obvious to you which reason your child is throwing a tantrum. Although if one of the proactive strategies outlined in my book is not in place, the likelihood and frequency of temper tantrums may increase to a point where it seems like anything and everything can result in a child losing his/her temper. So, after those systems are in place, it will be more obvious under what circumstances will result in a tantrum.

Preventing tantrums or aggressive behavior in children will depend on the specific reasons your child is behaving that way. Start by making a list of your child's triggers for aggression or temper tantrums and then you can find helpful information for each of the four triggers listed above at the following pages.

1. How to say "No" without a tantrum.
2. Transition strategies to help easily change activities.
3. Compliance strategies for defiant children - Be sure to continue on to Defiant children Part 2 by clicking the link at the bottom of this page.
4. Help for attention seeking behavior.

Some of this information may or may not be suitable for children with autism symptoms depending on the severity of the child's symptoms.

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