Developing and implementing strong behavior intervention plans (BIPs) is crucial for helping children with behavioral challenges, including toddler tantrums, aggression, attention-seeking behavior, and even self-injury. Whether you're a parent, teacher, or caregiver, a well-designed BIP can create lasting changes in a child’s behavior by using proactive strategies, positive reinforcement, and consistent routines.
A behavior intervention plan is a structured approach designed to reduce problematic behaviors and increase positive behaviors in children. Ideally developed with input from a trained behaviorist, each plan is based on a functional behavior assessment (FBA) that identifies triggers, the purpose behind the behavior, and how best to respond.
An effective BIP includes:
Identifying behavioral triggers is a foundational step in designing effective behavior intervention plans. Triggers are events, environments, or internal states that lead to a child’s challenging behavior. Without knowing what sparks a meltdown, aggression, or defiance, it’s nearly impossible to prevent or redirect it.
Common Triggers in Children Include:
How to Identify Triggers:
Start by tracking the behavior using an ABC (Antecedent-Behavior-Consequence) Chart. Write down:
By reviewing several incidents, you can often spot patterns—such as tantrums occurring every time a child is asked to stop playing or when they are in crowded environments.
Next Steps:
Once triggers are identified, the behavior intervention plan should include proactive strategies to prevent exposure or reduce the impact. For example:
Understanding triggers not only helps prevent negative behavior but also empowers the child to feel more in control of their environment—leading to more successful and sustainable results.
A core component of any successful behavior intervention plan is the identification and reinforcement of replacement behaviors—positive, appropriate actions a child can use instead of problematic ones. Simply trying to eliminate a behavior without teaching a suitable alternative often leads to frustration for both the child and the caregiver.
What Are Replacement Behaviors?
Replacement behaviors serve the same function as the problem behavior but in a more acceptable or socially appropriate way. For example:
How to Teach Replacement Behaviors:
Using visuals, scripts, and consistent routines can help reinforce replacement behaviors more effectively, especially for children with developmental delays or language difficulties.
One of the most effective ways to prevent challenging behaviors before they start is by teaching children adaptive skills. These are essential life skills that help children tolerate everyday demands, respond flexibly to change, and manage frustration without acting out.
Incorporating these proactive strategies into a behavior intervention plan sets a child up for long-term success, especially for those who struggle with toddler tantrums, ADHD symptoms, or sensory sensitivities.
Key Adaptive Skills to Teach
1. Tolerating Non-Preferred Activities
Many children struggle when asked to participate in tasks they don’t enjoy, such as cleaning up, transitioning from screen time, or attending structured learning activities. To help you can use a visual timer and gradually increase the amount of exposure to the non-preferred task.
2. Waiting Skills
Waiting is difficult for toddlers and young children but essential for reducing impulsivity. Teach this skill gradually increasing the amount of time required to wait:
3. Accepting the Removal of Preferred Items
Whether it's a toy, tablet, or snack, learning to let go without a meltdown is a teachable moment. Use scripting and consistency:
4. Accepting ‘No’ for an Answer
This is a big challenge, especially for toddlers prone to tantrums. To build this skill:
These adaptive skills don’t develop overnight but are powerful tools in reducing behavior problems. Include them in your intervention plan as goals with specific teaching strategies and reinforcement systems.
By consistently teaching and reinforcing these skills during neutral, calm moments—not just during meltdowns—you give children the tools they need to manage disappointment and transition smoothly through daily routines.
Before diving into intervention plans, it’s essential to apply positive behavior supports (PBS). PBS focuses on encouraging desired behaviors before problems arise. It involves setting clear expectations, reinforcing good behavior, and building strong relationships. Learn more about these in our guide to Positive Behavior Supports. For help related to specific behavior problems I have created additional pages to address each behavior individually.
1. Managing Toddler Tantrums and Meltdowns
Toddler tantrums often emerge around age two and can test even the most patient parent. Fortunately, there are proven techniques to help prevent and respond to these meltdowns. Learn how to say “no” without triggering a tantrum and how to de-escalate defiant behavior, which can be found in guides I created for How to Stop Toddler Temper Tantrums and How to Say No Without a Child Tantrum provide step-by-step instructions.
2. Addressing Attention-Seeking Behavior
Children often act out simply to gain attention, especially if they feel overlooked. This is common in kids adjusting to a new sibling or family change. Instead of ignoring the behavior or responding negatively, give structured attention when they behave appropriately. Strategies for managing this are included in our section on Attention-Seeking Behavior, where you'll find ways to give attention while still managing daily tasks.
3. Responding to Self-Injury
Self-injurious behaviors, such as head-banging or hand-biting, can be alarming. Your instinct might be to intervene immediately, but certain reactions may reinforce the behavior. Instead, structured plans focusing on prevention, redirection, and emotional regulation are essential. Explore our recommendations for Self-Injury Behavior Plans to learn how to handle these situations with care and consistency.
4. Strategies for Picky Eaters
Picky eating can lead to nutritional concerns and delayed oral motor development. Often linked to sensory issues, it’s vital to introduce a variety of textures gradually. Use reward systems like an Incentive Chart for Kids to encourage trying new foods ad visit our page on Diets with Picky Eaters for step-by-step suggestions.
5. Reducing Skin Picking Behavior
Skin picking can become a compulsive behavior, resulting in sores or infections. Our behavior plans offer practical solutions such as increasing sensory input through stress-relief toys, reinforcing skin-care routines, and limiting downtime. For detailed steps, visit the Skin Picking Intervention Guide.
6. Handling Aggressive Behavior in Children
Aggression in children, especially toddlers, can manifest as hitting, biting, or throwing things. These behaviors can escalate as the child grows if not addressed early. Learn how to respond calmly and consistently through our behavior plans for Toddler Hitting and Toddler Biting. Our resources help teach boundaries and emotional self-regulation in a developmentally appropriate way.
7. Using Consequences Effectively in Child Discipline
Consequences, when used appropriately, can teach children about accountability. Tools like Time Out for Kids and natural consequences help connect behavior to outcome. I personally loved the books based on Love and Logic. They give a lot of ideas on logical consequences based on the behavior that occurred.
Additional Resources: Love and Logic Books
Many parents have found the Love and Logic parenting books to be helpful companions to behavior intervention plans. These books are organized by age:
Each book includes actionable ideas similar to behavior plans but with a focus on emotional intelligence and natural consequences.
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