Learn how to say "No" without a child tantrum or aggressive behavior in children of all ages. Handling temper tantrums in toddlers is not easy, but they are even worse if they continue when children get older.
The biggest mistake I see parents make is to give a child an item or allow your child to do an activity after you have said no and he/she throws a fit. What did they just learn? That throwing a temper tantrum gets what he or she wants.
I understand that it can be very difficult as a parent not to give in when he or she is behaving terribly and you just want it to stop. Some parents also feel bad when their children have Down Syndrome or autism signs and may justify giving in due to this. However, this sort of behavior can only get worse and when your child is a teenager, which some of you may already be to this point, he or she will increase the severity and intensity of the behavior to the point where you either give in or deal with serious consequences.
At that point little toddler temper tantrums from a two-year-old will seem like small potatoes. You'll wish for toddler tantrums at that point. What kind of life is this? It is much easier to follow through with a little 2-year-old than a much bigger and stronger 14-year-old that has had 12 years of learning what works to get what he or she wants.
I have worked with parents that walk on egg shells and are afraid of their own children. Therefore, I am going to provide some strategies that will help you to follow through, even with aggressive behavior in children. However, this will still require effort on your part. It will be much easier if you start this right during the terrible two stages, when they are learning, but even if you are only learning this information now for your 14-year-old, it should still help.
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For example, if they want juice or pop and your child can’t have any, but your child can have water only say, "You can have water." He or she asks again and you say, "You can have water." Then continue to get the water and hand it to them and walk away ignoring all other behavior.
Choices are even better. If it is possible for him/her to have a choice of two approved options, then you would say, "You can have milk or water." If they will not choose one of those options after 5 seconds or ask for something different, choose for them. "Okay, I guess you can have water then." Get it for them and again walk away.
For an older child that might ask to go to a friend’s house and can’t go, you can say, "You can stay here and play a game with me, watch a movie, or hang out in your room." They may still get upset, but just go get a couple games and say, "Which do you want to play?" If they keep asking, simply say, "I told you- you can stay here and play a game with me, watch a movie or hang out in your room." Then walk away.
Don’t engage in an argument about the subject. Say, "I love you too much to argue about this." And walk away. Walking away is your best defense with an older child.
If you know that you are in a position where you will not be able to follow through after a child tantrum when you say no, just say yes in the first place.
Why say no, have him or her throw a fit to where you end up saying yes anyways and the only thing you accomplished was teaching them that when you say no it doesn’t matter. Then be sure to follow the next tip.
For example, we have a DVD player in our car for our son to watch on long trips to visit family. We don’t like letting him watch it unless the trip is longer than one hour. However, when we first got it, he wanted to watch it all the time. If we said no he would throw a horrible child tantrum (at 2-years-old). We knew if we gave in, that we would reinforce his behavior, so the first time we had to endure a tantrum for 30 minutes (of course we did not give in).
Driving during a child tantrum is awful! So, we decided to start with a rule for trips less than 10 minutes, knowing that we could endure a 10 minute tantrum. After successfully saying no without a tantrum, we were able to put the original rule of DVD’s only for trips longer than one hour back into place.
If you are always enduring a child tantrum in effort to get the same thing, such as a donut or to play a certain video game, don’t bring donuts into your home and pack away the video game until he or she begins to better accept not always getting what he or she wants.
Parents may also endure a child tantrum when children don’t want to do something, are asked to change or stop an activity they don’t want to, and in order to get attention. You may find more ways to deal with a child tantrum with regard to these areas helpful as well.
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